From Red Rocks to Real Talk: Mindset Shifts I Didn’t See Coming

I was in Denver this past weekend for a bucket list concert on Monday (last night), WOOO Mumford & Sons at Red Rocks!! While I was there, I flew out a day earlier than my husband to meet up with a real estate investor that I had on my podcast earlier this year (episode 49), Adrian Smude. I told him I would love to go for a hike or a walk or meet up in some way. He offered to meet for a Yoga session, and I hopped on the invite because any time I can spend with someone 1:1and talk life, real estate and beyond, I AM IN. Why the hell am I telling you this?

I had the BEST conversations with this guy over 5-6 hours of hanging out. I typically talk all things real estate and I was pleasantly lead on an exciting journey of discussions surrounding mindset, negativity, the different lives we live in households across the country, love & marriage, woo woo & metaphysical. It. Was. Incredible.

I really enjoy having discussions that make me think differently about the way I think about something. He talked about his loyalty to companies that take a stand for what they believe in and continuing to do business regardless of what people think about that stand. This made me think of the places I will not go because of their beliefs and pushed me to realize, while I don’t want to go to them because of their beliefs, I respect the hell of out of them standing for what they believe in. I think that perspective was something I really needed to hear.

Another subject we talked about was when we as humans match negativity with more negativity. Like we complain about someone and how negative they are or how much they complain but we are in fact matching that behavior with the same behavior. Instead of doing that, finding a perspective that is abundant and that you are grateful for. Complaining that someone is late, turning it into I needed a little more time for myself OR when someone exaggerates a detail, saying something like they are so excited they are rounding up. When we have conversations with a parent, spouse, or family member, choosing NOT to criticize and correct them or their behavior and instead just being a good family member back to them and listening without commenting.

While these are out of context and just me writing about them, they gave me such a huge shift in ways to think about things and I have been feverishly talking to Matt all weekend about those things and trying to have them sink in and changing the way I think when negativity comes up. These kinds of conversations are my absolute favorite. A person that can show me a new perspective or share their opinion that is different than mine in a way that pushes me to think instead of pushes me to be defensive.

I hope you get to have one conversation this week that pushes tour mind

-TR