How One Conversation Shifted My Scarcity Mindset into Abundance
I had the coolest moment over the weekend where I realized a conversation I had in Denver last month has changed the way I think in multiple ways.
I met up with Adrian from Tribe Builders Episode #49 and we did some yoga, walked around a lake and then got lunch which essentially turned into a 6 hour endeavor. We talked about real estate, woo woo spiritual stuff, scarcity mindset, abundant mindset, manifesting, capitalism, trailer houses, divorce, family dynamics, I love you's and a myriad of other things.
To me, it is so fascinating that you can link with someone without expectations of what the meetup will turn into and unknowingly have your mindset turned around just because you wanted to say hi to someone in person when you are visiting their state.
Yes. I know this might not be normal. I reach out to people when we travel all the time. I find it to be SO fun to do this. I really think more people should do stuff like this. I suppose it's a risk of either "wasting" an hour or not. Although I have found that it has never been a waste. I learn something from everyone.
ANYWHO. This friggin meeting where we talked about what seemed like everything under the sun, has prompted me in multiple ways in the last 4 weeks to think differently. A couple examples:
We had a chat about scarcity mindset and it was tied to what you consider waste with your toothpaste and shampoo. Like, do you try to squeeze every last drop out? Are you doing it because of the cost (hello it was less than $5 probably and you used it for MONTHS)? Are you doing it because waste=environment (have you actually thought about the additional ways you waste things that would be a better way to repay the environment back then cut open the toothpaste tube)?
We talked about how this activity can be linked to scarcity because YES you don't want to waste, but you also might be telling yourself there isn't abundance in your life. I know it's a super weird thing to think about but if you aren't feeling abundant with lots of little things, those add up to a big amount of scarcity.
Another discussion that has got me thinking. We all have family members we don't love to spend time with. We are thankful we don't see them too much because they complain about every little thing. Adrian mentioned having a bit of a spin when he needed to go home to visit and caught himself complaining about all their complaining, then realized he was in the same spiral of complaining, it just happened to be about them complaining which makes it just as bad as their low frequency activity (of complaining). I had a similar thought 3 times in the last week when I was talking to Matt about something and realized mid way I needed to stop because it wasn't any better than the original complainer.
I put it all together last night when I was talking to Matt and saying, wow I have been talking about Adrian a lot lately and all the things we talked about. And it is FOUR WEEKS LATER. Clearly the things we discussed have been on my mind and I can see how some of those things have started to take root in my mind and I LOVE IT.
All because I was going to Denver and wanted to meet him in real life and he said YES.
SO long story longer, go spend time with someone that you have had an interesting conversation with. You really never know where it will go and the things that might change the way you think. It might even make your life better.
-TR
