The Power of Receivership: Why You Don’t Always Have to Be the Helper
How is it September? I just hit 500 hours on my 1,000 hours outside project (if you didn’t know I decided to commit to trying to get 1,000 hours outside in the year of 2025. This is to help me build the habit of choosing to go outside instead of hanging out inside). Hitting 500 hours now means I need to do 125 hours outside every month from now until 2026. I gotta get reeeeal serious if I am going to knock this one out.
Anywho. This week I listened to a voice memo from my coach, Nicole. And woah. She talked about being in receivership and when we show up to group coaching calls, if we are showing up to receive or are we distracted by supporting, encouraging or trying to coach others.
For me that was a huge Huge HUGE shift. I show up to support others most of the time. Like 75% of my life. I have been in multiple coaching programs and I can not tell you what it is like to be only coached and not distracted by wanting to help and support others.
It knocked me on my ass, honestly. That comment made me look at a lot of what I do differently. Showing up as someone who always wants to coach, support and encourage feels like its my identity but it IS NOT. Frankly, I don’t think it should be either.
I am not saying I will no longer do that, but knowing when and where to take different hats off or put certain ones on is important. Knowing that I can show up to a coaching program I joined and just be in it for me and not for the group is a change for me. I want to show up to that group and do that.
I know that what got me to where I am today will not get me to the lofty goals I have of tomorrow. So changing that while being in this container of people is something I want to try out.
With all that being said, are there places in your life that you only show up to give but never to receive? I’d love to hear from you if this sparked anything.
Happy September. To the parents getting back into the swing of things, may the odds be in your favor!
-TR
